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Think of this as you’re wrapping your gifts this year…. December 7, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Corey @ 4:45 pm

A Different Christmas Poem

 The embers glowed softly, and in their dim light,
 I gazed round the room and I cherished the sight.
 My wife was asleep, her head on my chest,
 My daughter beside me, angelic in rest.
 Outside the snow fell, a blanket of white,
 Transforming the yard to a winter delight.

 The sparkling lights in the tree I believe,
 Completed the magic that was Christmas Eve.
 My eyelids were heavy, my breathing was deep,
 Secure and surrounded by love I would sleep.
 In perfect contentment, or so it would seem,
 So I slumbered, perhaps I started to dream.

 The sound wasn’t loud, and it wasn’t too near,
 But I opened my eyes when it tickled my ear..
 Perhaps just a cough, I didn’t quite know, Then the
 sure sound of footsteps outside in the snow.
 My soul gave a tremble, I struggled to hear,
 And I crept to the door just to see who was near.

 Standing out in the cold and the dark of the night,
 A lone figure stood, his face weary and tight.
 A soldier, I puzzled, some twenty years old,
 Perhaps a Marine, huddled here in the cold.
 Alone in the dark, he looked up and smiled,
 Standing watch over me, and my wife and my child.

 “What are you doing?” I asked without fear,
 “Come in this moment, it’s freezing out here!
 Put down your pack, brush the snow from your sleeve,
 You should be at home on a cold Christmas Eve!”
 For barely a moment I saw his eyes shift,
 Away from the cold and the snow blown in drifts..

 To the window that danced with a warm fire’s light
 Then he sighed and he said “Its really all right,
 I’m out here by choice. I’m here every night.”
 “It’s my duty to stand at the front of the line,
 That separates you from the darkest of times.

 No one had to ask or beg or implore me,
 I’m proud to stand here like my fathers before me.
 My Gramps died at ‘Pearl on a day in December,”
 Then he sighed, “That’s a Christmas ‘Gram always remembers.”
 My dad stood his watch in the jungles of ‘Nam’,
 And now it is my turn and so, here I am.

 I’ve not seen my own son in more than a while,
 But my wife sends me pictures, he’s sure got her smile.
 Then he bent and he carefully pulled from his bag,
 The red, white, and blue… an American flag.
 I can live through the cold and the being alone,
 Away from my family, my house and my home.

 I can stand at my post through the rain and the sleet,
 I can sleep in a foxhole with little to eat.
 I can carry the weight of killing another,
 Or lay down my life with my sister and brother..
 Who stand at the front against any and all,
 To ensure for all time that this flag will not fall..”

 ”  So go back inside,” he said, “harbor no fright,
 Your family is waiting and I’ll be all right.”
 “But isn’t there something I can do, at the least,
 “Give you money,” I asked, “or prepare you a feast?
 It seems all too little for all that you’ve done,
 For being away from your wife and your son.”

 Then his eye welled a tear that held no regret,
 “Just tell us you love us, and never forget.
 To fight for our rights back at home while we’re gone,
 To stand your own watch, no matter how long.
 For when we come home, either standing or dead,
 To know you remember we fought and we bled.
 Is payment enough, and with that we will trust,
 That we mattered to you as you mattered to us.”


Christmas will be coming soon and some credit is due to our
 U.S service men and women for our being able to celebrate these
 festivities. Let’s try in this small way to pay a tiny bit of what we owe. Make people
 stop and think of our heroes, living and dead, who sacrificed themselves for us.


by the master herself…………… November 13, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Corey @ 2:31 am


The Art of Talking

By: Abbie Godzwa

       Have you ever not talked for at least one to two hours? Well I have not that is why I chose talking as my subject. If you like to talk or learn about talking this is something for you. Read on for more details about talking. Warning symptoms may appear such as talking very fast, talking non-stop, or talking loudly.

            Talking helps you in your life everyday and here are just a few ways it does. First of all it is helping me talk to you. Next it helps in school so you can learn, even though some of it is listening as well.  Also it helps in jobs, for example if your boss asked you to go somewhere but your daughter’s birthday party was on that day, you would need to explain to him you couldn’t which is talking. Next there is acting; you have to say something in acting it would be part of your job description. Lastly there are bad situations. For example, if your friend gets mad at you but you don’t know why, you need to talk it out instead of being silent.

            There are also different types of communication. Such as sign-language, it helps deaf people that cannot hear. Web-cams are another way to communicate because you talk but can talk to people across the world if you want to. Texting is probably the biggest and my absolute favorite, when you text you can talk to each other but it is just like a short letter. Most people communicate by talking on the phone, which is like talking but you are not face to face. These are just a few of some different ways to talk.

            There are a bunch of different languages to talk in is well. Such as Spanish, English, French, and Chinese. You can learn a whole lot more from people, books, and more. It is a good thing to speak a lot of different languages. Because what if you go to Mexico and cannot speak Spanish it will be very hard for you. Imagine you going on a business trip and someone could notice you, and could be giving you directions to the hotel then you would not understand them that would be devastating.

            Always remember that someday another person is going to come up with a more advanced way to talk. I mean look back in 1880 there were no telephones. But as a few years passed BAM!!! There were telephones everywhere. Now there is a new generation and there are web-cams and many other things. Like I told you someday someone else will come along with a new invention HEY they might even come up with it tomorrow. Thank you very much for listening to my speech about talking.




good morning sunshine :))) November 12, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Corey @ 11:21 pm

Good morning, Sir. I’m so sorry to disturb you but it appears to be morning. Very inconvenient I agree, sir. I believe it is the rotation of the earth which is to blame, sir…


Yeah thats not me……. I’m a morning person by nature.. I’m feet hit the ground and I’m so excited (most of the time) to get my day going.. I”m full speed ahead, hit the shower and lets go!!!!!!!!!   I’m that perky annoying person that smiles when they walk in the office door at 8am.. coffee in hand while everyone else can barely see through their crusty eyelids…


My kids however………… are not..   Months and years of training has helped but every now and again.. they just do NOT want to get up when I turn on the light and say, alright guys time for school.. its not enough when I go over to the bed and gently tug on their shoulders……its not enough when I rub their backs and say, come on.. time to get up….

So.. at one time  I was very very evil and used water.  and WOW did that ever work, but yeah, kids were a bit angry for the rest of the morning.. so now, I’ve enlisted the help of the youngest family member.. and the most annoying……. supersedes me by far.. Kinsey

She eagerly awaits me at their doors as I say, Kinsey, lets get Abbie up!!! She runs in as I open the door. immediately jumps on the bed and ducks under the covers, and PULLS THEM DOWN from off of Abbie’s warm and toasty lil body!!!! Once that is accomplished and a lick of the ear.. she’s off to Joshs room where she likes to stand on top of him and lick him to death…. its GREAT!!!! Kids giggle and laugh.. occasionally I hear KINSEY GET OOOFFFFF me.. but the overall effect is a pleasant one..

Now I promise, if you come over, I will not send Kinsey in to wake you.. unless your cranky and then.. I’m sorry.. its game on..


Dating Tips for your Children!!!!! November 1, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Corey @ 6:56 pm

Okay these are tips for how to date your children.. strange concept?  Perhaps, but bear with me and you’ll see where I’m going with this..

A relationship, no matter if it is spouse, friend, relative, child, whatever must be nourished in order to survive.. so with that in mind, i want to explore how to keep your parent/child relationship alive, no matter the age, gender or current status.  Ready?

  1. Get prepared for dating. Be ready to commit to dating your child. Half-heartedness won’t work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date them, put some effort into it. This is about wooing that heart back to where you want it. Just like you did to get your spouse, you’re going to put on the extra charm and pitch in 110% to capture the heart of your boy or girl.
  2.  Don’t Compare  kids!!!! Don’t compare your oldest to your youngest… or your middle to the baby. Each child is an individual and should be seen and valued for who they are!!!!!!! Respect that and do expect them to be the same, act the same, talk the same as your other child or children. Save the comparisons for when you’re shopping for car insurance.
  3. Don’t Hide From Intimacy — every one of you just went WHAT??? this is my CHILD you’re talking about… WAIT.. Emotional intimacy is the foundation of a good relationship.  If you clam up when your little girl wants to you about dating, or physical changes, or love,  or even jealousy of a friend, any subject –she may feel he’s the only one sharing. Comments like, “Whatever” or “I don’t care” relay an attitude that says, “I don’t really want to get to know you better.”  Get to know your child.. talk to them like you’d want to be talked to.. just because they are little doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings.
  4. Listen Up  –this goes hand in hand with #3 —Learn to listen and watch your relationship blossom. Active listening requires you to keep your lips closed while your child shares. Do not give advice or try to fix anything; instead, repeat back what you thought your child said. Then simply respond with, “Wow, that’s interesting,” or “Really? Tell me more about that…  its amazing what you can find out when you sit quietly and listen…
  5. Take time with each child individually.. maybe you get along better with one because of similar interests or you find its hard to talk to the other… Make and effort to do something special with each child. Dad’s go get a pedicure with your daughter, mom’s go to the arcade and play video games with your boy, show them they are important to you.. make the effort to know them..
  6. Get in Touch a Lot. Don’t be afraid to hug or kiss your child, but do it when they are comfortable. Cuddle up during a TV show with your little girl or  take your sons arm when you’re walking down the street are also ways to bond.  This  reinforces your affection and makes you feel closer on an instinctive level. Everyone NEEDS contact.. even the most rebellious child longs for the touch of another.. make the effort.

The way you interact with your child is impacting him on life choices, who he or she will marry, the type of person they will eventually choose one day.. How dad’s treat their daughters will set the stage for a life choice of how she interprets love, and what kind of man she will marry.. Moms- your son needs to know love unconditionally from you so he can find that in his future spouse. Don’t be afraid to woo your child.. to date them and show them they are so very important to you.  Take the time you once put into to conquering your spouses heart and pour that into you child — win them back if they are far away or just keep them close… will build a relationship that will last forever……


Now — go out and start dating :))




Mp3’s, DVD’s, GPS and LMNOP……. alphabet soup October 8, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Corey @ 5:23 pm

Life is like a huge circle.. at some point I guarantee you’re going to pass this way again, or somewhere very very similar.  I think about the potholes of life, the things we’re often not prepared for and how it makes you feel as though you’ve woken up to see your left two tires are flat… Do i call AAA?  A tow-truck???  You hurry to dial 9-11 only to find the phone has been disconnected……. yes things can indeed get pretty interesting in life at times…  when the car breaks down, the fridge goes out, and your bank calls and you overdrawn.. you suddenly feel completely overwhelmed.

Then I float dreamily back  to a simpler time, when all that worried you was running out of coke before all your pizza was eaten… a fight with a best friend was the end of the world until tomorrow when  all is forgiven with a hug…..and skinned knees were war wounds to be shown off with pride.  I think of a time when the days stretched on for ever…… when a tree was a castle in the sky and the freckle faced boy next door was the prince slaying the dragon to rescue the princess –who was shoeless up in the tree, and has dirt smeared across her nose and cheeks.  

I sit here pondering if we have allowed society to encourage our children to grow up too quickly… have we set out goals so far above they heads they are continually jumping but never reach it.   We pressure them to succeed.. what do you want to be when you grow up is requested in writing, in triplicate form, signed and dated… by the time they are in Kindergarten.. lives paths are given out in first grade.. here is yours stick to it… there are no detours. 

As I watch my kids… its as if technology is second nature… things we are astounded at are taken for granted by them.. Life without a microwave is considered poverty.   And I wonder……. what would their lives be like today,  IF…. would they be drastically different IF……… I am a firm believer in chores and working… I’ve had a job of some sort since I was 14… (yay Summer Hire – Hahn AB, Germany)  While provided for well by my parents, I knew the big stuff wasn’t going to be just given to me.  Hard work develops a sense of ownership, of pride — while we may not enjoy it…at the end of the day, self worth far outweighs sore muscles… 

Take away the cell phones, the lap tops, DVDs, Mp3’s,  the xBoxes….. and what is left in a childs life today… where is the imagination of yesteryear….. Are our children as prepared for the qualms of life as we were…Have we done our job to teach them enough life lessons to conquer the world.. or perhaps have we gone to far and made tiny adults complete with briefcases and the Idiots Guide to Life out of our preschoolers.   


 maybe the truth of the matter is that they ARE better equipped to deal with it… because truth be told……I still can’t work the GPS system in the car………..


Individually the same……….. September 28, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Corey @ 9:23 pm

It isn’t often that I can go a day without thinking, I should write about…………… but rarely do I actually sit down and do it now days. Things pop up, a phone call, work, a twitter addiction, or simply life.. and its shuffled to the side. But there is much to be said for the written word as it is preserving and causes one to eternally remember the events of the day.   So today I choose to write.. To remember and to leave a part of me here for you to enjoy.

There is much to be said about individuality.  From the minute both of the children came into this world, it was apparent there were differences that far surpassed the obvious.  Josh and his humble, quiet and meek spirit… content in any situation, happy come what may, and Abbie, the whirlwind of emotions, exploding with anger and passionate about life.  Nothing shocks me anymore about these two.  I have come to expect much of both of them. And enjoy their differences as one would enjoy the fresh spring water, its refreshing.  I can’t imagine them any other way.

A few days ago, that humble and meek spirit was tried.  Josh was smacked by a classmate over an altercation in gym class.  While he held ever right to return fire, he simply turned and walked away….. came home and still showed little to no emotion… I never anticipated having a conversation with him where i begged him to please be angry at me sometimes, its OKAY… Where Abbie would have pounded the guy, Josh showed grace and walked away. I think at times I’m envious of his personality.  While I’m non-confrentational,  I’m not going to back down from a bully. 

Then there is the free-spirited Abigail.. the one that makes me laugh one minute and furious the next.  So much like her father in personality that I often wonder if they will ever truly get along… though it makes me smile to see the face of perplexity when she realizes she is him made over…  I enjoy the early mornings though, when I go into her room to wake her and she’s still curled up under the covers… she yawns and stretches and for a brief moment, the facial expression is that of the baby i carried home from the hospital nearly 11 years ago.

  Abbie was hurt yesterday, and I think in many ways it hurts me more than it does her, to see her in pain and kwow I can’t kiss it and make the pain dissolve away…. I remember those little voices of yesterday saying kiss the boo-boo mama, make it all better…..and one kiss and the giggles that followed as I blew on their tummies and kisses them in the creases of their necks…..  Josh wants so many hugs (no kisses though *wink*) and cuddles it’s as if he’s still my little boy….but the tough girl in Abbie doesn’t want the kisses…….much…but on rare occasions when the curtain is lowered, I get to baby her….. and love every minute of it……

I smile just to think of what tomorrow brings……….. and savour every memory of today…


Back in the saddle again…….. September 13, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Corey @ 4:36 pm

Its been a few months since my last post… the summer began and ended without so much as a heat wave….. odd for us in the South, but much appreciated.  Kids were retrieved from Ohio and a lovely week off on vacation was enjoyed by all.  Then life tiptoed back into full force…as school resumed and the day to day humdrum began again…

Josh came back from Ohio almost 2 inches taller than he left and his hands are now bigger than mine, the coolness of that is something I still don’t entirely understand, but the smile on his face merits my attention.  This years feat is his attempt at All-State band competition.  This begins our day earlier than normal, and him being at practice every morning at 7:15am.  I’m hearing of new notes being reached, and how hard it is to get your lips mushed and molded together to hit that high E.  (I really need to take a picture of  “the face” its rather humorous)

Abbie’s year began with friends, friends and more friends–in both Ohio and Georgia… our social butterfly just enjoys herself and bounces from friends house to friends house… She is especially excited about what her ALPHA group is working on for the LEGO league (ALPHA is the talented and gifted program she’s in at school, LEGO league is a competition they participate in every year and involves a robot) and something about creating a car that runs on air :))


Our biggest excitement was a call I received one day at work…. it went like this:

Me: Hello?

Abbie: Mama… I think something is wrong with the microwave…..

Me: okay

Abbie: But don’t worry nothing is on fire, it’s just alot of smoke…


Now how does one actually respond to that……………..    

I let the “nonfire” go… with minimal giggling… then the other day Abbie told me that they were talking at school about who thinks their mom is cool… to my benefit, Abbie still thinks I’m cool..which is something I need to write down and date it, so one day when she’s 15 and sassy, I can go back and show her that once upon a time I was cool….